Dads and Daughters

An annotated literature review of resources about dads and their daughters…

Dads and Daughters: Annotated Literature Review
Provided by JoAnn Deak

1] Ajjan, Diana, ed. THE DAY MY FATHER DIED: WOMEN SHARE THEIR STORIES OF LOVE, LOSS, AND LIFE. Philadelphia: Running Press, 1994.

Poignant, yes, but also informative. Loss often sharpens the lens of the impact that one human being has on another. Twenty-five women share their lenses.

2] Berry, Carmen Renee and Barrington, Lynn. DADDIES 7 DAUGHTERS. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1998.

I loved this book! The chapters take the reader through the whole process from pregnancy to birth to choosing a name to father-daughter bonding. It relies on stories and quotes from fathers, daughters and mothers to share some wisdom for fathers.

3] Bolin, Dan. HOW TO BE YOUR DAUGHTER’S DADDY: 365 WAYS TO SHOW HER YOU CARE. Colorado: Pinon Press, 1993.

It was inevitable: someone was going to write a cute, almost-day-of-the-year book of almost-quotes for this topic. Dan did. It will take you a half hour to read, but, you’ll also come up with some neat ideas of things to do with your daughter!

4] Carlisle, Bob. BUTTERFLY KISSES: TENDER THOUGHTS SHARED BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS. Nashville, TN.: Word Publishing, 1997.

All right, so it’s a little hoaky. Bob Carlisle wrote this song for his daughter and it was a BIG hit. He was so surprised by the response of fathers and daughters that he put together this ‘coffee table’ book of pictures and quotes from fathers and daughters. Need a present for someone?

5] Coulter, Barbara and Minninger, Joan. THE FATHER-DAUGHTER DANCE: INSIGHT, INSPIRATION, AND UNDERSTANDING FOR EVERY WOMAN AND HER FATHER. New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 1993.

Good reading if you’re looking for what not to do as a father. Most of the book focuses on issues that are detrimental to daughters. Only the last chapter tries to put together a conglomerate positive model. Worth scanning… 6] Henry, DeWitt and McPherson, James Alan, eds. FATHERING DAUGHTERS: REFLECTIONS BY MEN. Boston: Beacon Press, 1998.

Nineteen passionate and articulate men write about what it means to be the father of a girl. You won’t put this book down until you’ve read it all.

7] Hutchinson, Earl Ofari. BLACK FATHERHOOD II: BLACK WOMEN TALK ABOUT THEIR MEN. Los Angeles, CA.: Middle Passage Press, 1994.

A collector’s item, one of a kind! A book that celebrates black fathers and their impact on the lives of their daughters!

8] Loomis, Mary E. HER FATHER’S DAUGHTER: WHEN WOMEN SUCCEED IN A MAN’S WORLD. Wilmette, Illinois: Chiron Publications, 1995.

Mary begins with her story: how she went through life being a “little soldier” because that was her father’s compliment when she forged ahead regardless of difficulty or pain. Mary went on to look at adult women and how they carried their father’s banner into the world. Fostering success, only part of fathering, but one worth a whole book’s focus.

9] Marone, Nicky. HOW TO FATHER A SUCCESSFUL DAUGHTER. New York: The Ballantine Publishing Group, 1988.

This is one of the few books that mixes some research and some common sense and focuses almost exclusively on what to do as a father. Although I wish it had more up to date research, since there are not many quality books on this topic, it is still a must read.

10] Rabey, Lois Mowday. DAUGHTERS WITHOUT DADS: OVERCOMING THE CHALLENGES OF GROWING UP WITHOUT A FATHER. Nashville, TN.: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1994.

Divorce, death, totally absent, emotionally unavailable: this book deals with the effects of the absence of a father on girls. Those categories increasing numbers of females and this book shares some wisdom about what to do.

11] Scull, Charles, ed. FATHER’S SONS & DAUGHTERS: EXPLORING FATHERHOOD, RENEWING THE BOND. Los Angeles: Jeremy P. Tarcher, Inc., 1992.

Only seven out of thirty-four chapters deals with fathers and daughters. However, it is a good compendium of diverse authors and varied aspects of fathering.

12] Sharpe, Sue. FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS. New York: Routledge, 1994.

The author summarizes the book very well: “It is not possible to measure the quality of daughter-father relationships, nor to reliably predict their outcomes. This book does not seek to prescribe answers nor make glib general statements but to provide a guided journey through a range of real life father-daughter experiences, which illustrate specific areas of interest or conflict and can provide a framework within which to explore and question our own relationships.” The chapters hit key issues and make you think when you read them: I’d like someone to day that about my books!

13] Wright, Norman H. ALWAYS DADDY’S GIRL: UNDERSTANDING YOUR FATHER’S IMPACT ON WHO YOU ARE. California: Regal Books, 1989.

Mr. Wright approaches the topic like a counselor, which he is. The sentence that first caught my attention was: “Your father is still influencing your life today,- probably more than you realize.” This is not about research data but about looking at patterns of how many fathers have affected their daughters, both positively and negatively.